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Once you have kids, finding time for yourself becomes a nearly impossible task. You can plan it, but more often than not, something will come between you and your well-deserved time off. And that’s not the worst of it. When you actually manage to get that short break, you don’t even know how to relax anymore. You spend that time sorting out things in your home, running some errands without kids tagging along or you turn to taking care of somebody else’s needs, like your parents’ or your partner’s. So, if you’re in need of some precious advice on how to relax when you finally find time to, go through these amazing tips and find the ones that suit you best.
Buying diapers and baby food doesn’t really provide the shopping experience like you used to have. And as much as you love your kids and want them to have the best of everything, when somebody else is taking care of them and you can go shopping on your own, use it to truly enjoy yourself. Don’t just run in and out of a store, buying only what you need. Take your time and go window shopping, try out several outfits and buy something that makes you feel feminine and happy. You’ll get your kids some new clothes another time. This shopping trip is yours and yours alone, so make the best of it.
Meet up with some friends
Call up some of your friends and spend some time with them. Now, the trick is to get out of your home and not to talk about your kids too much. Instead, talk about your love life, those hot boots you want to get and that amazing new film with Idris Elba. Have a cup of coffee, go to that fancy new restaurant you can’t take your kids to, or simply have a long walk through the nearby park. Talking to your friends can be a great way to blow off some steam and relax from the everyday stress of being a mom and, very often, a housewife.
Ok, it’s true that you can use your free time to wash your hair and make a nice hairdo or do your nails at home, but there’s an even better solution. Instead of doing it all yourself, why not let somebody else take care of you instead? Wouldn’t it be great if you could get a full treatment at one of the professional nail salons nearby? You can also spend a part of your day at a spa, have a relaxing massage or change your hairstyle completely. Having somebody doing their best to pamper you the way you do your family can be a welcome change, and one you should definitely not feel bad about. After all, as much as you deserve it, your family also deserves to have the best possible version of you – relaxed and beautiful inside and out.
Sweat it out
You already know it. Physical exercise is good for both your physical and mental wellness. It’s a good way to maintain your health well into your golden years, but also to improve your mood and self-esteem now. So, as soon as you’re free and your kids are with your partner, parents or their nanny, get going. Put on your running shoes and do a couple of laps around the block or the park. Go cycling, roller-skating or swimming. Take up Zumba, do some yoga or, if possible, spend an afternoon hiking somewhere in the countryside. All of these can be fun and relaxing, and you owe it to yourself and your family to do all these things so that you can relax and be fresh and happy for them tomorrow.
Turn to the arts
If you like to paint, then fine, go and paint. But, for those of us who aren’t really good at creating art, there is always the option of enjoying literature, films and music. So, grab that book you’ve been wanting to read for months now, go to the theater or cinema or simply stay home alone and binge-watch your favorite TV series. Also, turn on some music. It can be slow and relaxing, but it can also be loud and upbeat, so that you can dance your heart out. When everything else fails, you can always do as Rihanna does and shake your stress away. It will only do you good.
Taking care of yourself and your own well-being can help you, but also your children and others around you. When you’re tired and stressed, you’re no good to anybody, so use your free time to truly relax and de-stress your body and mind.