A healthy amount of ego is a good thing. People who understand their strengths are more confident and have high levels of self-esteem, which are fantastic mental health tools. Learning how to control your ego is the best thing you can do for yourself. Knowing your strong points means that you’re likely to realize your weaknesses, too. If you’re proactive enough, you can take measures to make your life more balanced as a result.
Of course, being egotistical comes with stigmas, such as arrogance or self-gratification. Another pitfall of not being able to control your ego is the impact it has on health, not just yours, but others around you. You may not know it, but too much ego puts your mental and physical wellbeing in jeopardy. Yes, an egotistical person is unhealthier than someone who is humble and down to earth.
Continue reading to find out why, and how to keep your ego in check during the times it escalates out of control. Everybody has one, so don’t assume you won’t fall victim to it.
It Leads To Loneliness
A win at all costs attitude is positive in some scenarios. For your career, it will drive you forward to the promotions that you covet. Regarding your workout routine, an ego will encourage you to exercise as hard as possible for as long as possible, even when you’re tired. However, the side-effect is that you push people away.
When you control your ego makes you more compassionate to other peoples’ problems, and more likely to listen. Also, you may give off an air of negativity, and your friends and loved ones won’t enjoy the atmosphere when they are around you for long periods. After all, happiness and laughter are fantastic ways to bond and connect. As a result, you may find that your support group is small and not reliable.
Loneliness, no matter who it affects, is a terrible experience. For the sake of your lifestyle, you should attempt to put others first rather than focussing on number one. When you learn to control your ego, your loneliness will be less likely and you'll actually feel better about yourself.
It Grinds You Down
As a winner, you can’t resist an opportunity to secure a victory. Again, this can have positive side-effects in terms of your job and lifestyle, yet they are usually cosmetic. A beautiful house, exotic car, and big salary are important in many senses, but they come at a cost. To maintain them, you’ve got to work twice as hard as there’s always somebody after your crown. Plus, the rush is intoxicating.
Sadly, throwing yourself into your job is a surefire way to suffer from stress. The constant grind results in a lack of sleep and the inability to relax, and these are things that will boil over spectacularly. Thousands of men and women experience nervous breakdowns because their balance between work and life isn’t equal. The best way to recalibrate is to pick your battles and concentrate on the contests that you must win.
Let everybody else squabble over the less significant victories while you take a break and de-stress.
It Masks Health Problems
Anything that enhances your life is a plus, and you shouldn’t let it control your ego. Medical equipment is not-negotiable.
The issue most affected by too much ego is dismissing health problems. This is something most people do as they get older, and it’s not exclusive to arrogant or cocky adults. The reason – aging is tough to get to grips with no matter who you are or how much you prepare.
Losing your eyesight or hearing happens all the time, but when it happens to you, it’s a sign that things are changing. Therefore, you may decide to pass it off as insignificant, which could harm yourself or someone else. The trade-off between wearing hearing aids and a tiny gadget sticking out of your ear is tiny if it improves your hearing. My son has hearing aids, that he still (at 20 years old) fights me with wearing. Now that he's out of the house, it worries me so much that he's not wearing them.
The same goes for reading and driving glasses. My glasses stay on my face unless I'm in the shower or sleeping. Without them, I can't see properly so it's pointless for me to go without. Since my eyesight is going, I don't drive at night. I don't want to cause an accident because I can't see the road properly.
It Can Make You Less Confident
Do you remember what we said about how a healthy amount of ego improves your self-esteem? Well, it isn’t always the case. Although it does promote confidence, it also forces you to compare yourself against others. If you’re going to beat them, you need to gauge their strengths and weaknesses.
Unfortunately, you may not enjoy what you see. Some people are incredibly skilled in every department, more so than most. As a result, it’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling inadequate, which causes your self-esteem to plummet. So, in a cruel twist, your ego can turn your biggest strength into a huge weakness that is very damaging.
Having an ego is undoubtedly vital to health and wellbeing. But, you’ve got to toe the line carefully if you don’t want to experience the conditions above.