With so many of us staying home, it's taking a toll on family life. It's hard to keep a stress-free relationship while focusing on everything else going on. Even those of us who’ve been lucky to make it this far without coming into contact with the highly contagious coronavirus have been dealt with a number of serious blows by the pandemic. For many of us, life as we know it has ground to a halt, and we’re still feeling our way through an unprecedented time.
We’re unable to see friends and family we love face to face, and unable to visit the places we love, even unable to see our colleagues as we struggle through the realities of working from home. Nonetheless, many of us are finding a way to put a positive spin on the situation. We’re using this as a time to carry out a deep spring clean, fall in love with our homes all over again by redecorating and renovating, and spend some much-needed quality time with our significant others.
Stress-Free Relationship Tips While in Quarantine
However, if your life with your lover is less than rosy under lockdown, you may legitimately worry that your relationship won’t last until the quarantine ends. Here’s some advice to get you through the quarantine while in a stress-free relationship and keeping your heart intact…
Don’t stress about feelings of cabin fever
We human beings are not programmed to live in close proximity to one another all the time. If your partner has started to become incrementally more annoying the longer the lockdown has gone on, this may be a symptom of cabin fever. This is a perfectly natural psychological phenomenon. Try not to beat yourself up about it if you find yourself prone to anger or irritation. Just try to maintain the presence of mind, and keep your temper. And it goes without saying that your partner should do the same if you both wish to maintain a stress-free relationship.
Make sure you both have a safe space in which to cool off
Arguments and temper flare ups are somewhat inevitable while under lockdown. And when you’re in very close physical proximity, it can be very difficult to cool your temper. That’s why it’s important that you should each have a safe space in which you can be alone. Here you can relax, meditate, cool off and practice some anger management techniques. This space can prevent small arguments from escalating and give you both some perspective.
Talk about your relationship in specific terms
Now, more than ever, you need to be very clear and specific with your partner about what you want. Take your time in your safe space to think about what you want to say to them, the things you love and value about them, and the specific behaviors that you need them to change.
If you don’t feel safe
The sad truth is that there will be some living under the same roof as partners with whom they don’t feel safe. It’s important to know what to do in this situation, because you may need to flout the rules of social distancing to keep yourself safe;
- Contact your family. They will be able to give you the emotional and logistical support you need.
- Get them out of your home. They may be abusive or they may just be extremely stressed. In either case, distance could save your life. If necessary, contact a locksmith and have them change the locks. If you feel safe around your partner again in the future, you can always give them a new key.
- Think of your future self. Now, more than ever, separating yourself from a potentially abusive partner may seem virtually impossible. But your future self will thank you for it.
Remember, you will get through this
Whatever challenges the lockdown throws at your relationship, remember that one way or another you will get through this and come out stronger for it!