When we were moving almost 2 1/2 years ago, we made a point to talk to our children the entire time and through the process. While we chose to not include them in the actual house hunt, we did prepare them for our big move. After all, it was going to impact them, probably the most since they were going to have to switch school systems.
A big move can be exciting, but not everyone will understand your decision unless you explain it to them candidly. Children can oppose the decision, maybe outright defiant and angry, but they may even like the idea if handled well. Understandably, your kids will want to hold on to the life they have built. They have friends and fun activities that make them love their current home. They also have fears of being the new kids in town and school when they move.
4 Ways to Prepare Your Children for a Big Move
What if they do not make new friends or no one wants to play with them? These are just some of the fears kids may have. How do you handle this?
Let the Kids Know in Advance
Do not wait until the last minute to tell the children about the move. As soon as you are sure about the decision, inform them. It will give your children enough time to process the news, express their emotions, and finally accept the decision. Remember, it is not just you who will be leaving the life you have built behind but them too. Therefore, give them enough time to prepare for the transition.
Explain the Reasons for the Move
It is improbable that you may be willing to make a big move if it did not have exciting offers such as a better job or better living standards. Make your children understand why you had to move. Did you get a better job? Let them know the advantages that come with the move. It is also essential to let them know why living in your current home is no longer applicable.
Maybe you have been struggling to pay the mortgage or maybe you are looking to move into a better school district for an education that will benefit your children more than the current district. The move may give you all peace of mind.
Help them Express their Emotions
The news will cause a myriad of emotions but slowing down to think and understand things at your child’s level will help them cope with the decision. Answer any questions they may have and help them cope with their fears. For instance, if your child has a pet, they may be concerned about not being able to bring it along. Let them know that they can carry their pets with them and any valuables they have. Assure them that you have made all necessary arrangements like using Shiply to transport the pets to the new destination safely.
Choose an Appropriate Time to Move
If possible, plan the move during the summer holidays where the children can spend some time with their old friends then move to spend more time acquainting with the new home. Also, if you can manage, visit the place before moving to help the kids see how their new home looks, but if it is not possible, get photos that you can go through with them. If your kids have important events coming up, such as a talent show or a school party, plan the move after the event. Your kids will be grateful you did it.
When you take the time to help your children process the new information, you will all end up happy with the move and excited about starting a new life.