Not Ready For Marriage? 3 Easy Ways to Discuss It Now

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Has marriage been on your mind lately?

Being in a relationship is one thing, but getting married is a totally different thing, correct? For some people, taking that step and crossing that threshold is just sometimes not ready for marriage.  If you are someone in a position like this, you’re not alone! Many people feel like they are not ready for marriage, even though they love and are committed to their partner, and they are not quite sure how to take things from here on out. 

Many people feel like they are not ready for marriage, even though they love and are committed to their partner. Sometimes, you just are not ready, that's ok.
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Not Ready For Marriage? 3 Easy Ways to Discuss It Now

Quite often the reasons behind why you are not ready to for marriage could be very simple, or they could be complex. But you have to get to the bottom of the reasoning before you can even think about moving forward.

Talk About Why

What is it that is making you feel like you are not ready for marriage? Of course, it might just be that you do not like the institution, and you never want to tie the knot, and that is absolutely okay! But if you are considering it, and you are also hesitant about it, what could possibly be feeding these feelings? 

Because when your partner wants to get married, and you are not quite sure, it is key to talk about these things. It should not be an all or nothing case between the two of you, and it is something that should not be avoided. Talk to your partner, let them know how you are feeling, and try to work through the doubts. 

Find a Middle Ground

A middle ground, between your desire to stay together and your hesitancy towards getting married, is what you most need to find right now. Maybe your partner feels the same, or maybe they are looking for the next step – either way, if you love each other, and want to be with each other, collaboration should be easy to come across. 

Based on where you are in the world, you might already be in what is considered a ‘de facto relationship’, and if you’re wondering what is a de facto relationship, it is very similarly referred to as a ‘common law marriage’ elsewhere in the world. Reminding yourself and your partner of this could very well be all you need, as you still have legal rights based on these two titles and may help you decided if you are not ready for marriage or if you rather just be in a ‘de facto relationship'. 

Many people feel like they are not ready for marriage, even though they love and are committed to their partner. Sometimes, you just are not ready, that's ok.

Be Realistic

Of course, you have to be realistic – would it be better for the two of you to marry, or would it not make much sense? From both a legal and financial perspective, would marriage bring any benefits? Or are things just fine how they are right now, and there is no need to push? 

Realism is something that should always be taken into account when you are in a serious relationship, and it should be something you both can face. Maybe one-day marriage would make sense, or maybe you are ready to throw things out and really cement your commitment to each other – either way, if you know how life is going to be with or without marriage, it is going to be much easier to make a decision. 

If you are not ready for marriage, do not worry, there is a lot you can do to work things out. Make sure you keep the above tips in mind when marriage talks start and make sure you are confident in whatever decision you make. 

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