There are times, like this past week, where I go through really bad days. Days that shouldn't be bad, but are. Nothing really triggers them, they just happen. Over the years, having depression and learning how to cope with that depression, was well. . . . depressing for me.
Everyone experiences a bad day or two in their lives. It’s something that life throws at you, and as humans, we try to deal with it as best as we can. However, it can be tough!
It was a struggle. A major struggle. I had been on several different medications, been through 4 therapists, several relationships, etc. I was drinking a lot and doing other things that just were destructive.
Depression and Learning How To Cope With Bad Days
Those with mental health disorders need a bit more help with those days. Here are my tips on depression and how to cope with bad days.
Talk To Someone Who Will Listen
Sometimes, it can be helpful to just communicate your feelings to someone else, even if they don’t say anything back. That’s why having a pet like a dog or a cat can be really good when dealing with your mental health or when you’re feeling sad. They pick up on that and instantly try to make you feel better. Pets like a dog or cat do wonders for people with depression and learning how to cope with their feelings.
I know my 2 cats have learned the signs of when I'm having a depressive state. They don't move very far from me. They insist on sleeping in the bed with me or next to the bed on the floor. Having them close to me does wonders for my mood too.
However, if you don’t have a dog, then it’s a good idea to talk to someone who will listen to what you have to say. Make sure it’s someone you trust and that you feel comfortable around. If you don’t talk about your feelings, then they can end up bubbling inside of you, and that’s never going to feel good, and it’s only going to make you feel worse. There’s also places like a depression treatment center that you can visit if you’re really feeling like those thoughts are getting to you, and they’re becoming too consistent.
Remember The Good You Have In Life
It can be hard to stay positive or think positive thoughts when you’re having a bad day. However, when you’re in that moment, it can be really helpful to try and find some comfort from what you already have in your life. It can be good to remember the good you have in your life so that you can focus on that and try to bring yourself out of that mood you’re feeling.
Sometimes, we can forget what we have in life, so it’s important to note to yourself all the good things. Especially when you’re having a bad day, it can shine some light into that darkness that you might be feeling.
One thing that previous therapists have talked to me about depression and learning how to cope with some of my bad days, is that I need to write down 5 good things that happened every day.
It can be simple things like:
- Got out of bed today on time
- took a shower
- made myself breakfast and ate it all
- took a walk around the block
- received a hug from my kid without asking
Journaling can help you keep track of all of the positive things that happen to you daily. That way you can write them down and go back to read past days to remember.
Do Something That Brings You Joy
Joy comes from the things we love doing, and it’s important that on days like this, you’re doing something that you want to do. With that being said, in order to get through this, do what makes you happy. That could be going out to see friends you’ve wanted to see that make you happy. It could be taking a long, hot bath, or watching your favorite movie.
Find whatever that is and do it when you’re having a bad day. It can definitely help to relieve some of that sadness. Creating has been known to help with depression and learning how to cope with how you deal with your depression. It's one of the reasons I started writing.
Unplug From Social Media
And finally, be sure to unplug for a while from social media and the internet and see friends in the flesh. Pick up the phone and organize a night out or a lunch date. Spending time with friends and family is now more important than ever and can definitely help to lift your spirits.
We all love our social media, myself included. However, lately, I've been kind of turning it off or ignoring it a lot. It's something that a therapist told me a while ago to help me deal with my depression and learning how to cope with my triggers.
Getting through a bad day can be tough, but remember there’s always a light at the end of it.