Are you concerned that your child using drugs?
How do you Cope?
Kick them out?
Sit down and discuss facts and be open?
Is the prospect of having to take them to a clinic too horrible for you to even contemplate?
This past week my husband and I had a sneaky suspicion about our oldest son using drugs. We knew it wasn't anything hard but knew it was at least marijuana. We talked it over and decided to drug test him to be 100% sure.
I didn't make it a big deal and just told him “Look, it's just to be on the safe side and so I know what's going on in your life!” And that's the thing, as parents, we need to know what our kids are doing. Whether it's drugs, dating, or self-harming. We need to be aware of the changes in our children's personalities, actions, and persona.
How Do You Handle Finding Out Your Child Is Using Drugs?
Talk Openly with Your Children
You must talk openly with your children during the testing process. Let them know that you are doing this because you care so much about them. Often, children will be rebellious and feel a lack of trust if you bring up the subject of using drugs and asking to take a test. Let them know that regardless of the result, the main objective isn't to make things harder on them, but to simply put your mind at ease.
Use the Internet
Some countless websites and companies offer home drug-testing kits so do your research. Find out if there are reviews for the testing kit you are considering buying. This will be beneficial on your part since you will be able to learn more about the product you are planning to buy as well as comparisons with other products out in the market. Your choices will increase, and you will be able to buy the best the market has to offer.
Why Home Drug Testing?
Looking at it from an objective point of view, home drug-testing provides a lot of advantages for people who value their privacy among other things. It is also cheaper to buy a do-it-yourself drug testing kit than to go to a drug testing facility and have the examination there. It is less hassle and less worry on your part. It provides anonymity that keeps the sense of privacy surrounding your family intact.
There are a lot of do-it-yourself drug test kits available in the market today. Some examples of these tests include urine tests, blood tests, saliva drug tests, etc. Knowing beforehand what kind of test you are pondering to take will save your precious time. The most effective type of drug testing kit is the hair testing kit. This type of test tends to go much further back than standard tests and is able to tell how extensive your child is using drugs.
- Marijuana (THC)
- Cocaine (COC)
- Oxycodone (OXY)
- Ecstasy (MDMA)
- Buprenorphine (BUP)
- Morphine / Opiates (MOP)
- Amphetamines (AMP)
- Barbiturates (BAR)
- Benzodiazepines (BZO)
- Methamphetamines (MET)
- Methadone (MTD)
- Phencyclidine (PCP)
These multi-drug tests are very handy as they will screen your loved ones for a wide range of drugs, not just Marijuana. You no longer need to buy a single tester for every type of drug you fear your children might use. These pose savings for you and again, less hassle.
The test that I purchased was decently priced at around $25 and can be ordered through several retailers, but you can purchase it here. The kit comes with 5 sets of tests and will test for 12 different drugs. (I listed the types above)
While our son tested positive for THC aka Marijana, it's not the end of the world and honestly, I'm not pissed or even remotely concerned. Why? I believe that it should be legalized across the board. Now, he's been warned however that jobs will test for drugs and if he tests positive, he may not get the job. We've also explained that it's important to be safe and cautious with it. He's not to smoke at school, on school property, etc.
Some may think I'm encouraging him by allowing him to smoke. But I'm not encouraging him at all. I'm letting him know that, though technically it is illegal in Ohio, I'm okay with him smoking because it's been helping him with his depression and mood swings. This also opens a door to get him to talk to me more about things going on in his life. I've always tried to be open & honest with both of my boys.
I think when he saw that my husband and I were not upset, disappointed, or angry with him, he was relieved. I'm hoping that this paves way for him to finally open up a bit more.
Sometimes, You Need More Help & That's Okay
If you are still not entirely sure how quiet to handle your child using drugs, I also suggest seeking help from a behavioral help group such as Delphi Behavior Health Group. Delphi is a family of facilities offering individualized treatment for all levels of addiction. We believe that through personalized treatment in intimate settings, we can provide those suffering from addiction and mental health with the tools to start a journey of long-lasting recovery. Through each program, our highly trained professionals will be there to help you through medical and behavioral challenges, giving you the tools to reach lasting recovery.